24TH ANNUAL COMMUNI TY GUI DE Securing Our Community... Strengthening Our Commitment Family V i o l e n c e A w a r e n e s s
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3 www.rnca.ca On behalf of the members of the Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association, I would like to thank our individual and corporate sponsors for supporting our Annual RNCA Community Guides. Your generosity allows us to continue to deliver important safety and awareness messages to the citizens of Newfoundland and Labrador. This 24th Annual Community Guide focuses on the important topic of Family Violence Awareness, which is an ongoing concern in our communities. Through your support, our Association is pleased to be able to continue to provide funding to many local organizations that provide meaningful and important services within our province. One of these organizations is the Transition House Association of Newfoundland and Labrador whose mission is to ensure that women and their children live free of violence and that they have access to safety, security, services, and advocacy to support them in their communities and homes in moving toward a life free from abuse. We are very proud to be able to support the work they do. Thank you again for your continued support. Sincerely Warren Sullivan President RNC Association PRESIDENT’S m e s s a g e
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5 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association CONTENTS RNCA News & Photo Album What is Family Violence? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .11 What Puts Families at Risk of Violence and What Helps Protect Them? . . . . . . . . . . . .15 How to Recognize if You or Your Children are Being Abused . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .19 What to Do if Someone You Know is Being Abused . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .21 Men Abused by Women . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .25 Snapshot of Family Violence in Canada . . . . . .29 How Big is the Problem in Canada . . . . . . . . . .31 Who Can Help . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .35 How to Plan for Your Safety . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .39 How Men and Boys Can Help Stop Family Violence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .45 What’s Wrong with Spanking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .47 Get Help with Family Violence . . . . . . . . . . . . . .51 Domestic Violence – Fact and Fiction . . . . . . . .53 A Day in the Life of Canada’s Shelters for Women Survivors of Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . .57 Post-Separation Abuse: Impact on Women . . . .65 Family Violence in Canada – a statistical profile 69 What About the Children if You Decide to Leave .75 Impact on Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .79 Same Sex Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .83 The Economic Burden of Family Violence . . . . .85 Violence Against Women in NL . . . . . . . . . . . . .87 Violence Against Aboriginal Women . . . . . . . . .89 Emergency / Crisis Contact Information . . . . . .91 Shelters in NL . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .93 RESOURCES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .128 Message from the Premier . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1 Message from the RNCA President . . . . . . . . . .3 RNCA Executive Members . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7 Message from the Publisher . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9 RNCA Made $2,500 Donation to THANL . . . . .95 2015 Crime Stoppers Police Officers of the Year Award . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .97 RNCA Awards of Excellence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .99 2014 Christmas Gala and Awards Banquet . .101 Detective Sgt. Thomas Fraize Scholarship . . .101 Police Exemplary Service Medals and Bars Ceremony . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .103 Donations to the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . .103 Life-Saving Awards . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .105 Corner Brook RNCA Members in the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .107 Labrador RNCA Members in the Community .109 Anti-Bullying Day . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .111 Law Enforcement Torch Run . . . . . . . . . . . . . .113 Children’s Wish Foundation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .113 Seniors’ 2014 Christmas Party - St. John’s . . .115 Annual Charity Benefit Hockey Game . . . . . . .117 NL & Labrador Police and Peace Officers’ Memorial Association Parade - St. John’s . . . .119 RNC Unites to Help Retiree . . . . . . . . . . . . . .123 NL Man Raises Awareness for Huntington Disease to Help His Wife . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .125 ADVERTISERS’ INDEX . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .126 24th Annual Community Guide Family Violence Awareness Family Violence Awareness
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7 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association EXECUTIVE Albert Gibbons 2nd Vice President George Horan Director, Support Services Danny Abbass Director, Corner Brook Jason Power Director, CID Scott Harris Treasurer Jared Sweetapple Secretary Warren Sullivan President Nick Cashin 1st Vice President Mike Summers Director, NCOs Ryan Armstrong Director, Platoon B Mark Green Director, Platoon A Kevin Hogan Director, Platoon C Photos not Available Supporting Family Violence Awareness Jason Farrell Director, Labrador West Preston Duffy Director, Platoon D
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9 www.rnca.ca The Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Associationpublishes these Annual Crime Prevention Guides to educate the public on potentially hazardous community concerns. This 24th Annual Crime Prevention Guide focuses on Family Violence Awareness, designed to help educate and promote the public’s role in identifying and reporting potential Child and Spousal Abuse, which is a serious concern for all Newfoundlanders. This Annual Community Guide is made possible as a result of financial contributions from residents and business representatives throughout the province. With their generous support, the members of the Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association are able to give back to their communities through donations to various local charities and youth-oriented programs. On behalf of the RNCA, I would like to take this opportunity to sincerely thank each and every contributor of our 2014 Telephone Appeal. This unique publication is distributed free-of-charge each year to schools, libraries and public facilities and it is also available online at the RNCA’s website at www.rnca.ca, making it easily accessible to everyone. Your comments or suggestions regarding these publications are always welcome and we look forward to speaking with you again this year during our Annual Telephone Appeal. Respectfully, Mark T. Fenety President Fenety Marketing Services (Atlantic) Ltd. PUBLISHER’S MESSAGE “Providing quality, professional marketing and fundraising services on behalf of high-profile, non-profit organizations.” WWW.FENETY.COM
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11 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Family violence is any form of abuse or neglect that a child or adult experiences from a family member, or from someone with whom they have an intimate relationship. It is an abuse of power by one person to hurt and control someone who trusts and depends on them. All family violence is wrong. Some of it is against the law. Many terms with similar meanings The different terms used for family violence can have slightly different meanings depending on where and how they are used, such as in a courtroom or a hospital. For example, domestic violence can sometimes mean family violence and sometimes it means intimate partner violence. Intimate partner violence refers to physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse and can also be called dating violencebetween couples who are not married. The terms violence against women and gender-based violence are also used. Child abuse is sometimes called child maltreatment or neglect, and elder abuse is sometimes referred to as neglect. Family violence affects Canadians in all types of families and relationships-no matter how old they are, where they live, or how much money, education or type of job they have. It can affect people of every race, religion and sexual orientation. Violence can happen between anyone in a family or in a close intimate relationship (e.g., boyfriend, girlfriend or fiancée), including children, parents, grandparents, siblings, intimate partners and extended family—like uncles or step-parents. It can happen in opposite sex and same-sex couples. Examples of family violence: •child abuse, including neglect and childhood exposure to intimate partner violence •intimate partner violence, including dating violence •elder abuse and neglect •early and forced marriage, and "honour"- related violence •female genital mutilation Some common forms of family violence include: Physical abuse—physical injury or death of a family member or intimate partner caused when someone: •pushes, shoves, hits, slaps or kicks •pinches or punches •strangles or chokes •stabs or cuts •shoots •throws objects •burns •holds someone down for another person to assault •locks someone in a room or ties them down WHAT IS FAMILY VIOLENCE? Public Health Agency of Canada Agence de la santé publique du Canada ¸
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13 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Financial abuse—control, or misuse of a family member's or intimate partner's money or property, when someone: •takes another person's money or property without permission •prevents a person from going to work or otherwise obtaining money or other resources •withholds or limits money •pressures a person to sign documents •forces a person to sell things or change a will Neglect—not meeting the basic needs to provide care for a dependent family member or intimate partner, when someone: •does not provide proper food, warm clothing, health care, medication or appropriate hygiene •does not protect another person from physical harm or provide proper supervision •abandons another person Sexual abuse—forced sexual activity on a family member or intimate partner, when someone: •touches another in a sexual way without consent •has any sexual activity without consent •continues sexual activity when asked to stop •forces another to commit unsafe or humiliating sexual acts Sexual abuse can also happen in intimate partner relationships. Even if you are married or engaged, your partner cannot force you to have sex. Children under the age of 16 cannot give informed consent, so any sexual contact between an adult and a child is a crime. Children under the age of 18 cannot legally give consent to sexual activity that exploits them. Emotional or psycho-social abuse—words or actions to control or frighten a family member or intimate partner, or destroy their selfrespect, when someone: •makes threats •intimidates or bullies •puts down, insults or calls a person names •yells or criticizes all the time •isolates a person from friends and family •destroys belongings •hurts pets WHAT IS FAMILY VIOLENCE? ...continued www.phac-aspc.gc.ca
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15 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Patterns of family violence continue from one generation to another A child or teenager who is abused, or exposed to intimate partner violence, is more likely to be abused as an adult or to become an abuser. This makes prior experience of family violence a risk factor. Family violence can happen in any family or community. Research shows that while some factors may help protect families from violence (protective factors), others are related to a higher risk (risk factors). These factors do not cause family violence; they are related to level of risk, with exposure to multiple risk factors making families more vulnerable. Strengthening protective factors and reducing risk factors that make families vulnerable can help to prevent family violence. Protective and risk factors are related to family violence at many levels-society, community, relationship, and individual-and each level impacts all of the others. For example: A society's values and beliefs influence laws and can send a message about whether or not violence is tolerated. This message can influence the community-level programs or services that can help prevent or respond to family violence. Together, society's values, laws and community supports can impact family relationships and individuals - both to help people relate to each other in safe ways, and to develop resilience to cope with difficult or harmful situations. WHAT PUTS FAMILIES AT RISK OF VIOLENCE AND WHAT HELPS PROTECT THEM? Public Health Agency of Canada Agence de la santé publique du Canada Examples of protective and risk factors by type of violence Child abuse & neglect What helps to protect children from abuse? What puts children at risk of abuse? Society Laws against all forms of child abuse Social tolerance of violence Community Access to local support services Parental resilience and ability to cope Relationship Strong parent-child attachment A history of intergenerational violence Individual Parental resilience and ability to cope Parental mental health or substance abuse problems ¸
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19 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association SOMETIMES it can be hard to tell whether or not you or your children are being abused. This information may help you to understand your own situation. All family violence is wrong. Some of it is against the law. Family violence is any form of abuse or neglect that a child or adult experiences from a family member or intimate partner (boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, fiancé(e). It is an abuse of power by one person to hurt and control someone who trusts and depends on them. Abuse can happen between anyone in a family, including young children, grown children, parents, elderly parents, siblings, intimate partners and extended family-like uncles or step-parents. It can happen in opposite and same-sex couples. Examples of violence include: Physical abuse - you or your children are •hit, kicked, burned, pushed, choked or punched. •threatened-someone threatens to hurt or kill you, your family or your pets. Sexual abuse - you are •forced to perform sexual activities of any kind. •made to have sex without contraception. •deliberately given a sexual disease or infection. Sexual abuse can also happen between intimate partners. Even if you are married or engaged, your partner cannot force you to have sex. Child sexual abuse - your children are taken advantage of for sexual purposes if they •touch someone's genitals. let someone touch their genitals. •have sex. •watch others have sex or look at porn. •take off their clothes or watch someone undress. •have nude photos taken. Emotional abuse-you or your children are •treated like a possession. •constantly criticized and put down. •told that you are stupid or worthless. •ignored or neglected-or given the silent treatment. •threatened-someone threatens to abandon you or leave you behind. Controlling behaviour - you or your children are •kept in your home and not allowed to leave. •constantly questioned and monitored — including your internet and phone activities. •not allowed to see your family or friends. Neglect - you or your children are •not being provided with your basic needs from someone you depend on. •denied needs such as housing, clothes, food, hygiene, supervision or medical care. Financial abuse - you are •not in control of your own or family money without your permission. •having money taken from you without your permission. •forced out of your house or forced to sign documents to give over control of your house. •not allowed to make an income. HOW TO RECOGNIZE IF YOU OR YOUR CHILDREN ARE BEING ABUSED Public Health Agency of Canada Agence de la santé publique du Canada
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21 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Is someone you know being abused? If you think that someone you know is being abused by a family member, it is important to act in a way that is safe and appropriate for everyone involved. Family violence is not a private matter You might be concerned about getting involved because you feel that family violence is a private matter and none of your business, but it's important to remember that someone's life may depend on it. Signs that someone may be a victim of abuse Pay attention if someone... •seems sad, withdrawn, afraid or otherwise acts like they may be a victim of abuse. •is unreasonably angry or aggressive. •is nervous when a particular family member is around. •makes excuses for a family member's behaviour. •is sick or misses school or work a lot, or takes paid or unpaid time off that seems related to an abusive situation. •has a change in job performance: poor concentration, mistakes, slowness, inconsistent work quality. •tries to cover bruises. •drinks more than usual or uses drugs. Or if you see... •"put downs" from one family member to another. •one family member doing all the talking or dominating the conversation when the other family member is present. •one family member trying to keep another family member away from her/his work or other activities. •one family member acting as if he/she "owns" another. •a family member contacting another while at work to say something that might scare or intimidate her/him. What you can do Family violence is never the victim's fault. The most important thing that you can do is offer your support without any blame or judgement... •Make sure everyone is safe- Choose a time and place where you can have a private conversation. Be careful about communication-a voice message, text or email could put someone in danger. Never confront an abuser or do anything that makes you feel unsafe. Get support for your own feelings from a friend or professional you trust. WHAT TO DO IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS BEING ABUSED Public Health Agency of Canada Agence de la santé publique du Canada ¸
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23 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association WHAT TO DO IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS BEING ABUSED ...continued •Let the person be in charge - Listen respectfully to what this person needs; don't try to take over. Don't give details about why you're concerned; just say that you want to be supportive. If the person doesn't want to talk, say that you are available whenever needed. •Offer support - Before you approach the person, find services in your area that might help if and when they are ready: - Don't expect to know all the answers. - Explore options together. - Ask direct questions like, "Do you want me to help you find someone to talk to?" or "Do you want to go somewhere safe?" If a child or a young person tells you that they are being abused •Believe the child. •Listen. Don't interrupt or judge. •React calmly. Don't ask for details. •Tell the child that the abuse is not their fault, and that it was right to tell you. •Write down what the child tells you in their own words. What to do if you suspect child abuse: If you know a child is being sexually abused, report it to the police immediately. In an emergency, call 911. Every province and territory has a law that says that any person who believes a child is being abused must report it. You will not get in trouble for making a report if you have reason to believe a child is being abused, even if it turns out that you were wrong. If you have questions about how to recognize child abuse, here are some things you can do: •Call your local child protection services. •Talk to a nurse, social worker, doctor or teacher. •Call the police. •Call the Kids' Help Phone 1-800-668-6868.
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25 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Information Sheet Between 1999 and 2004, more than half a million men in Canada had a female partner who was violent toward them. The partner might have been a wife, an ex-wife or a common-law partner. This means about six per cent of men in intimate relationships have experienced abuse or violence from their partners.1 MENABUSED BYWOMEN So what is abuse? •Abuse in intimate relationships is a pattern of behaviours where one partner dominates, belittles or humiliates the other. •Abuse of men by their partners happens when the partner uses emotional, physical, sexual or intimidation tactics. She* does it to control the man, get her own way and prevent him from leaving the relationship. The abused man is always adapting his behaviour to do what his partner wants, in the hopes of preventing further abuse. •The primary motive for abuse is to establish and maintain power and control over a partner. The abused partner resists the attempts to control him. In turn, the abusive woman takes additional steps to regain control over her partner. •Abuse in intimate relationships is not typically an isolated incident. Abuse happens over time. If abuse is allowed to continue, it becomes more frequent and more severe. Control tactics: four kinds of abuse Often when people think about abuse, they think of emotional abuse, physical abuse, or sexual abuse. Abuse may also include intimidation tactics. EMOTIONAL ABUSE TACTICS include: •Putdowns •Controlling finances • Isolating her partner and restricting his freedoms •Spiritual abuse (ridicules or insults religion or spiritual beliefs) PHYSICAL ABUSE TACTICS include any activity that can cause physical pain or injury. SEXUAL ABUSE TACTICS include: •Uses force or pressure to get her partner to have sex in a way he does not want •Ridicules or criticizes his performance •Withholds affection or sex to punish him for violating her rules INTIMIDATION TACTICS are any words or actions that the abusive partner uses to scare her partner. For example: destroying property, threatening, stalking or harassing. The primary motive for abuse is to establish and maintain power and control over a partner. The abused partner resists the attempts to control him. In turn, the abusive woman takes additional steps to regain control over her partner. “ ”
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27 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Society’s attitudes can make it harder Our society is beginning to recognize and study the abuse of men by their partners. Society’s inappropriate beliefs and attitudes about men have kept this kind of abuse hidden: •Men are supposed to protect women •Men don’t get pushed around by women •Men are not supposed to hit back even when a woman is hitting them •Men should be able to “handle” their women Because of these beliefs, men who are abused by female partners may be slow to admit it. They may not want to tell anyone. Sometimes police and other professionals may not take the abuse seriously. As a result, a man in an abusive relationship may have some of these feelings: •Afraid to tell anyone •Depressed or humiliated •Afraid he has failed as a lover •Confused because sometimes she acts loving and kind •Believes he deserved it Ten things you can do if you are being abused 1. First, make sure you and any children are physically safe. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. 2. Make a safety plan. If your partner has ever been violent, the violence could happen again at any time. You will need a safety plan so that you can get to a safe place quickly if necessary. 3. Know you are not responsible for the abuse. The abuse is the responsibility of the person who is abusive. 4. Understand that abuse and violence will likely continue without intervention. 5. Tell someone you trust about the abuse. Choose someone who will believe you. Secrecy gives abuse power. Do not give up. 6. Find out more about abuse in relationships. You are not alone. About six per cent of Canadian men report being abused by partners.2 7. Find out what help is available in or near your community. 8. Get professional help from a qualified counsellor. 9. Look after yourself. You are in a difficult situation that takes energy and strength. Make time to do some things that feel good. 10. Spend time with healthy people. Even if they cannot help you directly, being with healthy people will remind you that most people have kind and rewarding relationships. You can too. * Abusers can be male or female. www.familyviolence.alberta.ca. MENABUSED BYWOMEN ...continued Know you are not responsible for the abuse. The abuse is the responsibility of the person who is abusive. “ ”
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31 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Of all reported crime in 2011, more than one quarter resulted from family violence. Family members were involved in 77% of all murdersuicides. Almost 70% of all family violence victims were women and girls. Women are victims of intimate partner violence more often and more severely than men • 80% of intimate partner violence is against women • 97% of spousal murder-suicides are against women Family violence is under-reported Experts know that rates of all forms of family violence are underestimated. For example, according to a 2013 Statistics Canada report, only 24% of women who had been abused by their spouses had reported it to the police. There are many reasons why people don't report family violence. One is because of the stigma associated with it. Young children may not report violence because they may have limited contacts outside the family in whom they can safely confide. Intimate partner violence Here are some findings from 2013 Statistics Canada reports on family violence and violence against women: Most victims are women Rates of intimate partner violence were higher for women compared to men in every age group. Compared to men, women who were victims were: • 3- times more likely to report being sexually assaulted, beaten, choked or threatened with a gun or a knife • nearly 2.5 times more likely to report higher rates of injury caused by abuse • 5 times more likely to report multiple experiences of abuse Rates for Aboriginal women are more than twice those for other women • Nearly 60% of Aboriginal women who reported spousal abuse also reported being physically injured as a result of it versus 41% of non-Aboriginal women • Almost half of these women reported the most severe forms of violence: being sexually assaulted, beaten, choked, or threatened with a gun or a knife. Young women have the highest rates overall • Women aged 24-34 have the highest rates of intimate partner violence, followed closely by those aged 15-24. • The dating violence rate is 60% higher than the spousal violence rate. • Rates of all types of violence, including partner violence, decrease as people get older. Public Health Agency of Canada Agence de la santé publique du Canada FAMILY VIOLENCE: HOW BIG IS THE PROBLEM IN CANADA? ¸
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33 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association ...continued Same-sex relationships • Women who self-identified as lesbian or bisexual reported significantly higher rates of violence by a partner than heterosexual women (20.8% vs. 6.1%) Child abuse and neglect A recent report showed that in 2012: • More than a quarter (26%) of adult Canadians reported that they had experienced physical abuse in childhood; 10% reported childhood sexual abuse; 8% reported childhood exposure to intimate partner violence. A 2013 Statistics Canada report showed that: • girls were 4 times more likely than boys to be victims of child sexual abuse by a family member • of infants killed by a family member, those under 1 year were most at risk • Shaken Baby Syndrome/Abusive Head Trauma accounted for nearly 1 in 3 homicides against children less than 1 year of age. • as children grow older, the non-lethal rates of violence increase Rates of child abuse by type of abuse According to data from child welfare agencies in Canada in 2008, children were exposed to the following types of abuse: • Exposure to intimate partner violence (34%) • Neglect (34%) • Physical abuse (20%) • Emotional abuse (9%) • Sexual abuse (3%) PHAC (2010) Elder abuse & neglect According to a 2013 Statistics Canada report: • Nearly 60% of incidents of elder abuse were physical assaults against older adults, and 26% involved threats. • The highest rates of elder abuse by a family member reported to police are for those aged 65-74. • Senior women are more likely to be killed by a family member than senior men. Who is most likely to abuse older adults? • family members (34%) • strangers (27%) • acquaintances (19%) Grown children are the most common perpetrators of abuse and/or neglect of elderly relatives-especially in cases of homicide. Statistics Canada, 2013b www.phac-aspc.gc.ca FAMILY VIOLENCE: HOW BIG IS THE PROBLEM IN CANADA?
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35 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Who can help? If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 9-1-1. If your area does not have a 9-1-1 service, call your local police emergency number. The police are trained to help you deal with dangerous situations. They are there to investigate and can also help you to get a peace bond. They can also refer you to victim services. Victim services or a lawyer can help you get a noncriminal protection order to keep the person who abused you away from you. If the situation isn't dangerous right now, you can also call a health centre, victim services, community organization, shelter, or the local police and tell them about the abuse. They can help you to figure out what to do next. When you ask officials like the police, a social worker or a lawyer for information, you can ask them to keep your concerns confidential. The list below can help you find people or groups that might be able to help you with information, support or emergency assistance. Victim Services Victim services organizations work with the police to help victims of crime. They can help you develop a plan and find ways to protect yourself. They can connect you with services for food, clothing and shelter and may be able to provide interpretation services so you can speak with someone in a language you are comfortable in. See the Victim Services Directory1 to find services across Canada. Community Organizations Many community organizations provide social services. These organizations may have someone who can listen to you and talk about your choices. They may be able to refer you to a lawyer if you need one or refer you to other services such as financial assistance. Some of these community organizations may have services in your first language. Multicultural or immigrant serving organizations may be able to give you information and refer you to helpful services. Family Doctor or Public Health Nurse Your family doctor can give you advice on what to do if you are being abused. He or she can help you with your physical or psychological injuries or may refer you to someone who can. Many provinces and territories also have 24-hour health telephone help. Call your provincial or territorial government for information about health and social support services in your community or ask your local community centre for advice. They may be able to offer information, counselling and provide referrals to social workers. You can look in your phone book or on the internet for your local number. Friends, Family, Neighbours Speak with someone you trust about the abuse. People cannot help you if they do not know what is happening to you. Government of Canada Gouvernement du Canada GET HELP WITH FAMILY VIOLENCE www.justice.gc.ca ¸
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37 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association GET HELP WITH FAMILY VIOLENCE continued... Who can help? Help Lines There are many telephone services (sometimes called crisis lines) that you can call for free 24 hours a day without giving your name. The person who answers the phone will listen to you and can help you make important decisions to stay safe and to keep your children safe. Look in your phone book or on the internet for phone numbers. If you choose not to call for help right away, then keep a list of these phone numbers in a safe place you can get to easily. Legal Services Legal help may be available from a lawyer or a legal aid office. Contact a lawyer referral service, a legal aid office or a public legal education and information association to find out where you can get legal help and if you can get help free of charge. Hospital If you have serious injuries, you should go to a hospital. Hospitals have emergency staff who are there to help you if you are hurt or having a health emergency. They may also have special knowledge about family violence. It is best for you to tell the doctors and nurses the truth about what happened. If you are not a Canadian citizen, you may still have access to health care. If you are legally entitled to be in Canada - as a refugee, a permanent resident or a sponsored spouse - you may be entitled to free health coverage after three months under provincial or territorial health insurance. Refugee claimants may have access to health care coverage from Citizenship and Immigration Canada. Tourists or temporary visitors can buy health insurance. For any questions regarding your health coverage, see your province's or territory's health information website or call your provincial or territorial health service. Police Many police officers are trained to respond to family violence. Many police services across Canada have special domestic assault units with police officers and other professionals who will listen and try to help you. The police can also refer you to victim services. Check the first few pages of your telephone book for the phone number. Shelters If you or your children are in danger, a shelter can give you temporary help and somewhere safe to stay. Staff there have special training to deal with family violence victims and can give you advice on what to expect and how to stay safe and keep your children safe. Religious Organizations If there is someone at your place of worship whom you trust, tell them what is happening. See Page 91 See Page 93
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39 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association Plan for your safety if you are in an abusive relationship It's important to make a plan to keep you and your children safe. Ask a friend, neighbour or co-worker you trust to help you, or contact local services. There are also online tools to help and ways to make sure you browse safely. Even if you're not planning to leave the relationship, a safety plan can help in case the abuse gets worse. You may have to leave in a hurry. Make sure to take actions in a way that makes sense for youfor example, one at a time or in stages-and is safe for you and your children. 5 steps to make your safety plan 1. Do your research 2. Decide how you can leave quickly - or stay safely 3. Talk to your children 4. Gather important items 5. Be careful about your computer 1. Do your research • Talk to family, friends or a trusted professional who can help you make plans. • Get legal advice about your rights. • Find services in your area, such as shelters and financial aid. 2. Decide how you can leave quickly - or stay safely If you stay - tips to live more safely • Tell someone you trust about the abuse. • Think about your partner's past use and level of force. This will help you predict what type of danger you and your children are facing and when to leave. • Create a plan to get out of your home safely and practice it with your children. • Choose the closest place to call for help - a coffee shop or neighbour's house. • Decide where you will go (for example, a friend's house or local shelter, safe home or transition house) and how you will get there. • Ask your neighbours, friends and family to call the police if they hear sounds of abuse and to look after your children in an emergency. • Park your car by backing it into the driveway. Keep it fuelled. • Hide your keys, cell phone and some money near your escape route. • Have a list of phone numbers to call for help. • Your local shelter or police may be able to equip you with a panic button/cell phone. • Make sure all weapons and ammunition are hidden or removed from your home. In an emergency • If an argument is developing, move to a space where you can get outside easily: find doors and windows that could help you escape. • Think about rooms where you could be trapped, or where there are weapons such as knives that could be used against you - try to avoid going into these rooms during a violent episode. • If you are injured, go to a doctor or an emergency room and report what happened to you. Ask them to document your visit. Are you a child or teenager who needs help? Call the Kids' Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868. The call is free of charge and you don't need to give your name. Public Health Agency of Canada Agence de la santé publique du Canada HOW TO PLAN FOR YOUR SAFETY ¸
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• If you are being hurt, protect your face with your arms around each side of your head, with your fingers locked together. • Don't wear scarves or long jewelry. If you are planning to leave (non-emergency) • Contact a local women's shelter (even if they are unable to take in abused men, women's shelters will usually have information to help all victims of abuse). Let them know that you intend to leave an abusive situation and ask for support in safety planning. • Consider contacting the police. Ask for an officer who specializes in partner abuse cases. • Gather important documents. • Consult a lawyer. Keep any evidence of physical abuse (such as photos). Keep a journal of all violent incidents, noting dates, events, threats and any witnesses. • Put together pictures, jewelry and objects of sentimental value, as well as toys and comforts for your children. • Arrange with someone to care for your pets temporarily, until you get settled. A shelter may help with this. • Remember to clear your phone of the last number you called to avoid the abuser using redial. • Remember to clear your computer. As you leave • Request a police escort or ask a friend, neighbour or family member to accompany you when you leave. • Do not tell your partner you are leaving. • Leave quickly. • Have a back-up plan if your partner finds out where you are going. After leaving Here are some actions you should take after you or your partner has left the relationship: • If you are staying in the home, change the locks and get an unlisted phone number and caller ID. • Block your number when calling out. • Change computer and other passwords. • Consider applying for a restraining order or peace bond that may help keep your partner away from you and your children. Keep it with you at all times. • Provide police with a copy of any legal orders you have. • Consider changing any service provider that you share with your ex-partner. • Carry a photo of the abuser and your children with you. • Take extra precautions at work, at home and in the community. Consider telling your supervisor at work about your situation. • Think about places and patterns that your expartner will know about and try to change them. For example, consider using a different grocery store. • If you feel unsafe walking alone, ask a neighbour, friend or family member to accompany you. • Do not return to your home unless accompanied by the police. • Never confront the abuser. 3. Talk to your children In advance • Tell your children that abuse is never right, even when someone they love is being abusive. • Tell them the abuse isn't your fault or their fault; they did not cause it, and neither did you. • Teach them that it's important to keep safe when there is abuse. • Teach your children how to get help. Tell them not to get between you and your partner if there is violence. • Create a plan to get out of your home safely and practice it with your children. • Together, pick a safe place in the house where they can hide if the violence starts - ideally with a locked door and a phone that the abuser can't see. • Agree on a code word so they will know when to call for help. 41 www.rnca.ca Royal Newfoundland Constabulary Association HOW TO PLAN FOR YOUR SAFETY ...continued ¸
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