IPV - Older Adults ● VPI - personnes âgées 53 Things you might be worried about It’s normal to feel uncomfortable when someone you know is being subjected to abuse. “It’s really none of my business.“ When someone is being abused, it’s everyone’s business. It could be a matter of life or death. “I don’t know what to say.” You can say “I care, I believe you, and it’s not your fault.” Show that you care. “I might make things worse.” Typically, violence gets worse over time, doing nothing could make things worse. “It’s not serious enough to involve the police.” Police are trained to respond even if the behaviour is not criminal. Police know about other resources to help. “I’m afraid their partner may become violent toward me or my family if I interfere.” Speak to the victim alone and let the police know if you receive threats. “I don’t think they really want to leave because they keep going back.” On average, people will leave an abusive relationship 7 times until they exit for good.There are many reasons for why someone might go back, they may not have money, a place to live, a job, a babysitter, or transportation. Your support is necessary the whole time. “They’re both my friends.” You can be supportive to both friends. One friend is being abused and living in fear and needs your support. The other friend may be upset that you interfered, but when they are ready, they can turn to you for help. “If someone who is abusive wanted to help or to change, they would.” People who use abusive behaviours are often ashamed of their actions.Talking to them about the behaviours that are concerning you could be the nudge they need to ask for help. Sleepless photo created by Drazen Zigic - www.freepik.com
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